Supporting roles: The story of a veteran's wife, her commitment and embracing the future

When you think of the RSL, it’s easy to just think of the support we give to the servicemen and women who have returned home. But what about the people they’re returning home to?

Partners and families who have also had to sacrifice time away from their loved ones, perhaps putting life on hold to navigate the unique challenges of the Defence lifestyle.

Cherie is one of those partners.

The wife of returned serviceman, Trent, who was discharged from the Army in 2014. Her story is one of commitment, support, and embracing opportunity.

"I’ve really got to give it up to her. When I returned home, seeing Cherie still waiting for me was a rare and precious moment.

Strength in the face of adversity

Cherie is the embodiment of unwavering support. Hearing Trent recount the moment he returned home from service, he’s quick to acknowledge that it’s not always the case.

“There were a few guys and girls that kind of came back and weren't still with their partners.”

It’s a scene that highlights the unfortunate reality faced by many service members whose relationships falter under the strain of deployment. 

"It's hard. It takes a toll. You realise that it's no longer about yourself. A lot of it is about the person who was in Defence or is still in Defence.

After Trent’s return home, Cherie then found herself becoming his carer. “The role of caregiver often overshadowed my own aspirations and desires,” Cherie admits. “A lot of my needs tend to get forgotten about because the focus is on him.”

Yet, Cherie remained a steadfast pillar of support, facing these newfound challenges with understanding, compassion, and optimism for the future. A journey of personal growth. Since returning home, Trent was granted a scholarship through RSL Queensland.

And now, nearly a decade after their emotional airport reunion, Cherie found herself presented with a similar opportunity. “He got his scholarship first, then he heard there was a partner scholarship available. Trent encouraged me to pursue my dreams.”

With the support of RSL Queensland through the RSL Scholarship Program and RSL Employment Program, Cherie was able to focus on her aspirations and embark on a career in nursing. Studying a mental health unit within the course also empowered her with new tools to care for Trent.

“Some veterans can suffer from mental health challenges, so there was a lot of things that I learned that helped me with being able to look after Trent every day.” Looking after the things that matter. It’s hard to underestimate the importance of a strong support network and having people around you that genuinely care.

For Cherie and Trent, their commitment to each other has never wavered, and the support and commitment they’ve received from RSL Queensland has had a positive impact on their lives and future. “RSL Queensland's doing an amazing job to support not only the veterans, but also the veterans' families. Scholarship and Employment programs like this, and all the other stuff they do, is invaluable.

"I'd like to say to the VIP Club members of Dream Home Art Union, a huge thank you. The help that you provide means that people like me can go to university. (Without you) It wouldn't be possible for us to be able to achieve these great things."

*Please note: RSL Queensland regularly reviews and refines its services to ensure we’re effectively supporting veterans and their families. As a result, the RSL Scholarships program will not be taking on new ex-Defence and partner applicants at this time. Scholarships for veteran dependants are available through our partnership with the Australian Veterans’ Children Assistance Trust (AVCAT). For more information, click here: https://avcat.org.au/scholarships*